Define Pathetic

Here it is.

The great love of my life marries today and I am not the groom. I had my chance, a few years ago, but did not realize until too late how fleeting my moment with her was meant to be. Whether it was my fault or hers, and, let’s face it, it was probably mine, I will wonder always about the life I might have had with the most loving and loveable woman I have ever known. Sometimes, I finally now understand, love, even crazy love, is not enough. Sometimes, as the romance novelists know, timing is everything.

But today is not a day for remorse. It is not a day for lost causes. Today is a day for celebration. The woman I once promised to keep happy is happy. She tells me she is marrying a wonderful man, with a good heart, whom she believes I would have liked had we met in different circumstances. She lives where she wants to live. She has selected her life’s path. All that is left for me to do is to wish her well and to hope that she has made the right choice; that she continues to find in him what she did not find in me. And I am sure he considers himself today the luckiest man on the face of the Earth.

The present I humbly send her today is this column; this public note, this irrevocable display of affection and support and gratitude; this worldly absolution from any guilt or sadness she felt between the time she said no to me and the time she said yes to him. No one ought to have to carry that with them into a marriage. I showered her with as much love as I could muster when we were together. I still love her and always will. So I am only too happy to offer my toast to her now, one more time, before she takes her vows.

Full column here.

Seriously, this is the most cringe inducing thing I’ve read since the last Tom Friedman column. What a wimp.


  1. Peterk says:

    definitely the most groveling thing i’ve ever read

  2. CJ says:

    P.S. But hey, if things don’t work out, call me, ‘k?

  3. Anonymous says:

    So FULL of shit. Walk it, baby…don’t write it.

  4. John says:

    How did you get a hold of my journal?

  5. Katy says:

    How embarrassing.

  6. Paladin says:

    Always the bridesmaid, never the bride.

  7. Male self-identifying “writers” are habitually pussies.

  8. icodestuff says:

    I have a new goal in life – to never ever be that guy.

  9. Frank R says:

    Gotta wonder about a guy who feels compelled to put this stuff out there for public consumption.